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Am I Really THAT Rude?

Posted by Admin on May 30, 2012 at 4:05 PM

I've heard of the stereotype that lots of people with Aspergers tend to be rude.  Yes, that may be true in some aspects.  I'm not GREAT at social situations, and I often find myself clueless as to why my parents are SO upset when I say something a certain way.  I don't always remember to write thank-you cards, and I don't always ask others how they are doing.


HOWEVER


I DO say please and thank you, (out of pure reflex!).  I DO hold doors for people, and apologize if I find out I HAVE been rude.  I don't curse (at other people, or when it's inappropriate), I don't put others down, and I try to basically treat others the way I would want to be treated.


I honestly feel that I am more consciously polite than most people.  I feel so many people are unaware of their disrespectful behaviors, and sometimes this frustrates me.  Just recently, there was an incident where I felt I was one of the ONLY people out of about forty who could respect the people involved while still stating my honest opinion.  In the end, I was thankful for help I received, and apologized for any inconvenience I caused.  But I was patient, I didn't shout, I didn't accuse anyone of anything, and I was just downright respectful.  I cannot say much of the same for the rest of the people involved.  That saddens me, and frustrates me that I'm seen as one of those kinds of people.


People argue, people threaten, people accuse and deny.  People complain, people attack, you name it.  And I'm not going to sit here and say that I'm perfect, because I'm anything BUT.  However, I thank my parents for raising me to be a conscious mature, polite, respectful person.  If I'm ever extremely rude, it's most likely because I'm oblivious to it, but I would never WANT to be, or do it on purpose.

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3 Comments

Reply Winston Harvey
10:38 PM on May 30, 2012 
Hi, i too have aspergers, and im 13, i have a type of aspergers called the ring of fire which i cant find anywhere on the internet. Basically all of the parts of my brain all want to work at the same time and it makes it so that i am VERY easily distracted, for instance the AC in my house could turn on and all of a sudden i would be thinking about what i want to do on my computer instead of my homework because i recognize the sound from when i was playing a videogame, which makes it so that i almost never get any work done. i was born 3 months premature and as it stands i am EXTREMELY lucky to not be retarded or physically disfigured. i read your "what is aspergers?" tab and pretty much everything applies to me, this also greatly complicated my romantic life, as i take any eye contact from an attractive female of my age as an act of sexual agression somewhere in the back of my head, but in the front of my head i want to take it completely normally. I am feeling depressed because this school year, like any other seems to have gone completely wrong from start to finish, due to things like the fact my matress began to sag sometime near the beginning of the year and i got about 5 percent the rest i needed, i only noticed it a couple of days ago and so i have been insanely tired every day in school all this time, which has a great impact on my work habits. I have an algebra SOL (standard of learning) tomorrow, which is basically a test equal to half of my grade for the year and i am totally not prepared, i cant postpone it and i cant not take it... i cant do anything now, and i think i will have to take algebra again :L my life is really sucking right now and i needed to just get all of this out there even if it doesnt make me feel any better
Reply winston harvey
10:40 PM on May 30, 2012 
this is embarassing, im actually 14 :P
Reply Winston Harvey
11:02 PM on May 30, 2012 
i have also just realized that it isnt ring of fire aspergers but ADD/ADHD, and is the 6th of the 6 forms, being a severe combination of all other forms of ADHD/ADD, on a spect scan my entire brain lights up. this ROF add/adhd would definitely explain my problem of switching between periods of extreme agression and energy, and then periods of calm and the type of lazy feeling where you dont see even the slightest need to do some things. This has a very very large impact on how i do homework, and the periods of energy seem to constantly get shorter and shorter and shorter. i am an excessive talker (another symptom) and can also sometimes be hyperactive, which seems to drain me of a lot of rest and energy, which is also a huge problem.
here is a link to a web page explaining what it is: http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=37283