|Posted by Admin on June 18, 2012 at 7:25 PM|
Sometimes, I just can't tell how people are feeling. I regularly ask the questions "Are you bored?" "Are you tired?" "Are you feeling well?" and many more. I don't do it to annoy people, but because I know I can't tell on my own, so I may as well outright ask them.
Just today, I asked someone three in a row. "Are you bored?" Answer: "No" "Are you tired?" Answer: "No." These are the two most common ones associated with this person. Finally, I remembered an incident that had occurred earlier that the person had been upset about. This led me to ask "Are you mad?" Answer: "Yes."
I got it! I was so happy that I had gotten it! But....ok, what's the best way to RESPOND to that?
In the end, I settled on "I'm sorry about what happened." Even though it wasn't really my fault, I still wanted to make sure they weren't mad at ME for some reason. Of course, they weren't.
I never really thought about how similar any emotions are to each other according to behaviors. I just ask the usual questions, and try to figure out how to deal with the answers that come.