I Have Asperger's
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I'm NOT "Normal"
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I want people to know things about me. When you first meet me, you wouldn't know that I'm an Aspie. In fact, you probably wouldn't even notice that anything about me is different. But that's where my biggest issue is. No, I don't use an iPad to communicate. I CAN drive. I CAN work. I DO live independently. This is what throws people off. Everyone seems to have this crazy idea that people with ASD are incapable of doing these things. It's not that they are incapable. It's that they are not ready. And they may never be ready. I just happened to be ready sooner. So yes, I am VERY verbal, but my communication skills are not easy. I have a hard time interpreting what people say, and figuring out how to respond. I can barely work a part time job for an hour or two before I feel like I've taken the SAT tests. I can only drive on certain roads to a certain distance. I live independently, but I need people to help me daily in my apartment. I may not be your obvious person with ASD, but that's what makes MY life challenging. I don't want to have to prove that I have Aspergers. I have worked so hard to make it in this world. I haven't always been this way, either. I nearly dropped out and wanted to die in 10th grade. But the point is that I'm still here. I know that others are still struggling, but I also know that I have had my share of struggles too. And so please, don't EVER call me "normal". I take that as a complete insult.
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Hayu
10:14 PM on November 16, 2012
I feel your words. I can function fine within my own boundaries. I try to balanced some me-time and people-time. The thing is most society thinks if we walk talk and do errands, they expect us to be like them. If Normal is a box, i'll be way out of the box. We all face challenge, and i hope you can make it through. And yes, for me normal is insulting
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Fuel
12:18 AM on November 17, 2012
You are right Site Admin. But no offense to Markeese on the last post. Markeese, if feeling normal works for you, then more power to you. But the average Aspie,( if there is one),does not feel normal. We know we are not. If there is anyone out there feeling normal and thinking they're aspergic, please get another evaluation. Most likely you have OCD or ADD. Those disorders often get misdiagnosed as Aspergers. Sometimes for reasons of convenience. Thanks and have a good day.
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Fuel
12:24 AM on November 20, 2012
Comments tend to be addressed to the site owners blog and not to the previous, and or other commentors unless otherwise stated. Just so you don't get confused. Or offended. Smile.
Fuel says...
Comments tend to be addressed to the site owners blog and not to the previous, and or other commentors unless otherwise stated. Just so you don't get confused. Or offended. Smile.
(Smiling!)
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Akind
10:26 AM on November 22, 2012
I'm NOT "Normal" too. I can't speak English. So I have stadied it recently.
Well...I'm looking for the people of the same PDD syndrome like me.If I can
find at foreigners of PDD, I'm glad. Because,thereby,my outlook on life is chenging Quite. More more, I gonna stady English, so would you become my friend? Please. incidentally...I'm Japanese and 26 years old, the man.
Well...I'm looking for the people of the same PDD syndrome like me.If I can
find at foreigners of PDD, I'm glad. Because,thereby,my outlook on life is chenging Quite. More more, I gonna stady English, so would you become my friend? Please. incidentally...I'm Japanese and 26 years old, the man.
Akind says...
I'm NOT "Normal" too. I can't speak English. So I have stadied it recently.
Well...I'm looking for the people of the same PDD syndrome like me.If I can
find at foreigners of PDD, I'm glad. Because,thereby,my outlook on life is chenging Quite. More more, I gonna stady English, so would you become my friend? Please. incidentally...I'm Japanese and 26 years old, the man.
I am happy you visited the website. Thank you! Yes, I will become your friend.
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markeese
01:27 PM on November 24, 2012
Fuel says...
You are right Site Admin. But no offense to Markeese on the last post. Markeese, if feeling normal works for you, then more power to you. But the average Aspie,( if there is one),does not feel normal. We know we are not. If there is anyone out there feeling normal and thinking they're aspergic, please get another evaluation. Most likely you have OCD or ADD. Those disorders often get misdiagnosed as Aspergers. Sometimes for reasons of convenience. Thanks and have a good day.
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Markeese
01:30 PM on November 24, 2012
I wasn't trying to be rude. I was just trying to say that we don't think like typical people. BUT we can do what typical people can do. I wasn't trying to be mean everyone. I apologize. Please don't complain about me admin.
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Markeese
01:35 PM on November 24, 2012
I don't ever think that I could comment ever on this site. Because no one trusts me and now everyone's against me.
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Markeese
01:42 PM on November 24, 2012
Fuel says...
You are right Site Admin. But no offense to Markeese on the last post. Markeese, if feeling normal works for you, then more power to you. But the average Aspie,( if there is one),does not feel normal. We know we are not. If there is anyone out there feeling normal and thinking they're aspergic, please get another evaluation. Most likely you have OCD or ADD. Those disorders often get misdiagnosed as Aspergers. Sometimes for reasons of convenience. Thanks and have a good day.
Fuel, you don't know my backround. I was diagnosed with typical autism when I was 3. If my parents knew that something was wrong when i was just a baby, then I definatly wasn't mis-diagnosed. But then my diagnoses changed to aspergers at age 14. I wasn't mid-diagnosed. But I have imporved a lot over the years. I don't need another evaluation. That's offensive too. Yes, I am ADD occured to aspergers.
Markeese says...
I don't ever think that I could comment ever on this site. Because no one trusts me and now everyone's against me.
No one is against you. Your comments have been more than welcome. Thank you for visiting the website!
Markeese says...
Fuel, you don't know my backround. I was diagnosed with typical autism when I was 3. If my parents knew that something was wrong when i was just a baby, then I definatly wasn't mis-diagnosed. But then my diagnoses changed to aspergers at age 14. I wasn't mid-diagnosed. But I have imporved a lot over the years. I don't need another evaluation. That's offensive too. Yes, I am ADD occured to aspergers.
Markeese, you sound a LOT like myself! This is how my diagnosis went, too!
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Markeese
01:53 PM on November 24, 2012
Thank you so much. Now I feel a lot better. If telling you that your "normal" is offensive, then I will respect that. I should have put it in a different way.
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Markeese
01:54 PM on November 24, 2012
Thank you so much. Now I feel a lot better. If telling you that your "normal" is offensive, then I will respect that. I should have put it in a different way.
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Fuel
12:35 AM on November 27, 2012
Sorry if this is a double post. The first didn't seem to enter. Try not to be so sensitive Markeese. I did say that I intended no offense. It's all good. Secondly to Admin, thanks for you diplomatic response on my behalf whether it was intended or not. 8 )
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Markeese
05:47 PM on November 28, 2012
Fuel says...
Sorry if this is a double post. The first didn't seem to enter. Try not to be so sensitive Markeese. I did say that I intended no offense. It's all good. Secondly to Admin, thanks for you diplomatic response on my behalf whether it was intended or not. 8 )
That's Ok.
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sarah
01:22 PM on December 07, 2012
hey thank you so much for sharing about AS, I just don't want you to feel any different from other people and using the word normal should be fine. I believe I have a very mild form of AS and I can definitely relate to every single word you say but I wouldn't like people to look at me as any different from them because we are normal. The only difference between us and others is the way how our brain is wired and our hypersensitivity. I also would not like to be labeled because my social anxiety and communication struggles could be work on and it should be worked on and become better for every other person with " ASPERGERS""
thank you so much for sharing about AS, I just don't want you to feel any different from other people and using the word normal should be fine. I believe I have a very mild form of AS and I can definitely relate to every single word you say but I wouldn't like people to look at me as any different from them because we are normal. The only difference between us and others is the way how our brain is wired and our hypersensitivity. I also would not like to be labeled because my social anxiety and communication struggles could be work on and it should be worked on and become better for every other person with " ASPERGERS""
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03:14 PM on December 12, 2012
i totally understand what you are saying, a few seconds ago i found this page and this is the only only one of your publications that i read and i think that is enough,i'm aspie too ,my life it's hard but i try to be a normal person and the reality is that i'm not, i have TOC too but its not the TOC that everybody knows ,it's different,next year i'm going to college and i'm sure that will be really hard,my social skills are not the best, for the other hand it's will be a big oportunity to practice but the problem is that i'm scared to not be acepted,my TOC makes all more dificult for that reason is that decided solve that problem.i'm really sorry for my english.
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