I Have Asperger's

The unique perspective of the world through the eyes of a girl with Asperger's Syndrome

Social Interaction and Asperger's

I am a lonely introvert.

The big thing about Asperger's and Autism Spectrum disorders is the trouble with social interaction.  I do like to have friends, and be social.  However, I have limits.  I personally tend to like only one-on-one, or maybe a very small group of people at once.  If there are too many people, I can't follow the conversations.  It's very hard to stay calm when so many voices are hitting you at one time.  I can't separate them. 

However, I AM one who likes to be around people.  I'm an introvert, with lonely times.  I will let you know when I want to be with people, and I will let you know when I need to be alone.  Please respect that.

It's all just a big misunderstanding...

I don't understand social cues.  ESPECIALLY sarcasm.  Please don't get offended if I get upset.  I'm just getting frustrated because I don't understand.

Also, because I can't always read social cues, I tend to ask direct questions repeatedly.  I'll ask questions like "Are you bored?" or "Are you okay?" multiple times.  Most people don't NEED to ask these questions, because they can tell somehow through those social cues.

What are social cues?  (Or: I don't mean to be rude...)

What ARE social cues?  That is a question that I can answer, but not understand.  People with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) have a VERY hard time recognizing the cues, and tend to come off as being rude or apathetic because of that.  (I happen to be a little higher functioning, and so I've somehow developed an ability to recognize an occasional cue here and there).  I feel absolutely terrible whenever I find out that I've been rude or hurt someone.  It's depressing, because I think that I may be doing fine, and then I realize that I've messed up.  I only hope that people can see that I'm a nice person at heart.

 

A note about looking in the eyes:

A big trait of Asperger's and Autism is that there is an aversion to eye contact.  I haven't had too much of a problem with this myself.  The only times I have had trouble, I noticed that it was because it was an intense situation, or the person was intimidating.  It can be hard to focus on someone when there is a lot of other things to look at!  And looking at a person can be uncomfortable.